Yes L-O-V-E-R. That person with whom you share stolen moments and a magnetic chemistry, bringing pleasure by their conversation, companionship, sense of humor and good looks coupled with major sexual heat in the bedroom. Who, when the rendezvous is over, there are no plans to meet the parents, pick up dry-cleaning or have “the talk”. Instead, each person blissfully retreats to their respective home without the pressure of commitment or expectations of domesticity.
What once seemed
reserved for the likes
of Madonna, Angelina,
Cher and Marilyn, has
become a preferred
choice for some every
day women as well,
who are openly
choosing a lover(s)
over traditional
relationships. Believe it
or not, many single,
successful women desire
great sex, selective
companionship, passion
and fun with a trusted
partner, without the
permanence of
commitment. While many
people are quick to judge
the idea of a lover, the
motivations for many
women making the choice
stems from a place of
empowerment and
freedom and are not a by
product of low self-esteem
or deep seated emotional
baggage requiring
psychotherapy or better
yet, an exorcism.
In a recent article, writer
and Washington Post
contributor Sherri Daye
Scott shared her personal
perspective.
“I’m not looking for a “boyfriend” or a “husband.” I want a lover. I want to have consistently good sex with someone I like and respect, who likes and respects me, without the trappings of domesticity. That might change. Might not. But in this moment of my life, when I am juggling projects and co-parenting, I simply want good sex on a regular basis with a side of good conversation, the occasional out-of-bed adventure and special-occasion date.”