Social media has changed the relationship world as we know it. It’s like a double-edged sword. It can lead to introductions and may serve as a casual way to build a relationship – a good way to avoid those awkward moments at first. But, it also causes problems.
A recent study by Mirror, a British tabloid, poured through 200 divorce caseloads. Nearly one third of those sited Facebook as a reason for the divorce. It’s not only an easy way to connect with old flames, but it can also be a written document of proof of infidelity and other lies on a wall, in a private message, or even a tag. At first, that number sounds huge. Then, you think about it – and it’s not all that surprising.
Enter April Davis, founder of Cupid’s Cronies. Does the television series Millionaire Matchmaker sound familiar? Well, Cupid’s Cronies (cupidscronies.com) may not be on BRAVO, but its services are similar in several ways. Clients are not required to be millionaires, but they are accommodated with the most upscale, elite services available. Yes, she is a matchmaking expert – but she is also somewhat of a relationship coach. If you aren’t in a relationship or you are, I think many of us are in need of a social media etiquette class and I can’t think of anyone better to get advice from on this topic - Mrs. Davis, by the way, just so happens to be married to a divorce attorney.
Her number one tip: Get a life. People are more attracted to others who have interests and hobbies. Don't make your hobby Facebook/Twitter/Instagram/etc… and don’t over post or spend an excessive amount of time on it. Not only do you look like a loser because you have no life, but this will actually decrease your chances of having a successful relationship. While you are online, please monitor yourself. Research has shown that Facebook can create jealousy in relationships, which may lead to arguments concerning past partners. Also, excessive Facebook users are more likely to connect or reconnect with other Facebook users, including past lovers, which may lead to cheating.
Now let’s talk about posting.
Don't take excessive selfies. Society is full of people doing this narcissistic activity. Instead, actually do something interesting and make a memory, which you can capture on your phone. The only people who actually enjoy looking at your selfie photos are yourself and creepos looking for alone time material.
You're always dating online, you just don't realize it.
Written by Christina Nicholson