3.Managing expectations. Be clear about your intention for reconnecting. Always begin with how important they are in your life or how much they’re missed. Acknowledge past hurts and express a willingness to listen to their feelings. Be open to their response and let them know you respect their perspective. Seek to understand one another’s feelings and not to persuade them about who was right or wrong, it doesn’t matter. The importance of initiating reconnection is to let go and move forward in love. You can only control how you express your thoughts and feelings. You cannot control how the other person will receive your message. If you release your thoughts and feelings about the person and the past hurts, then you can walk away with a clear conscious and open heart. Rebuilding trust takes time, so don’t expect things to be like they were. See this as an opportunity to grow and begin to nurture a new relationship. Overcoming past hurts creates a stronger bond of love and friendship. The gift is the other person responding with love and willingness to move past the hurt.