5.They won’t say “I love you” and feel pressured or uncomfortable when you discuss your relationship goals. They may be uncomfortable talking about being committed to you. Once you are in a place and established a commitment you should get to the point of saying “I love you.” If it’s coming from one person and not another, this makes things uncomfortable because you’re not on the same page. You also will start discussing where you both see this going. If this makes one of you shut down, then it’s either too soon or they aren’t ready and you need to have a heartfelt discussion if this is the person you want to invest even more time with.