4.They don’t seem over their Ex. They are not confident about where they are or what they are looking for. They bring up their Ex a lot in a negative way and harbor hostility and resentment towards them. This may show you they might not be in the right head space for a new relationship. To be in something real you must be over and completely healed from your past traumas. We all hold onto things, but you need to be open, have your guard down, and be ready to let someone new into your life and your heart.