3.Playing hot and cold. One minute they are giving you all the attention in the world, and the next you have no idea how they feel about you. This leads me to believe you are not their biggest priority. After a certain time of seeing someone, it should naturally progress into a relationship. Things do get in the way; work, family, kids, life, so be cautious of that as well. For the most part they either want to spend their off time with you or they don’t and sometimes people need to be informed what you need from them to make you happy. Some are happy with a few texts a day and seeing each other once a week, some need much more than that. Be honest with yourself and your partner and have a reasonable understanding that they may have limited time to give.