Women and men have somehow lost their way and strayed far from their true natures. Basically men are running around lost without purpose and women are left longing for the strong man that is not easily found anymore. And we don’t help matters either, we lack compassion to their plight. Often when a man tries to approach us and we're not interested, the rejection we send is more brutal than a slap in the face. We won't let a man pick up the tab, whether to show our power or just limit his expectations for a nightcap we don't plan to have. All of this rejection effectively emasculates them until they get smaller and weaker, making them even more undesirable.
Instead of rejection, men need a bit of praise. Yes, praise. And that's the second basic need of men. Men need purpose and praise. They need a house to buy, a goal to reach, a task to complete. And then they need to be told they did a good job, that their efforts have not gone unnoticed. So the next time your man does a nice thing around the house, tell him how lovely it was, after all we love acknowledgment too. But praise actually isn't what moves us, which is surprising I think. In addition to feeling protected, a woman's other basic need is presence. Yes, we appreciate it more when men actually spend time with us.
So men, show up and be a man! Channel your inner caveman, because there are a lot of us out here that want that caveman again. Why else would Fifty Shades of Grey have taken the world by storm as it did. And women, you may not want that type of man, fine, leave him for the rest of us, but show your love in a way that let's him know he's doing okay and he'll show up more for you in a meaningful way. Just remember the FOUR "P's" - Men need purpose and praise. Women need protection and presence. All the rest, and there is more, is icing on the cake.