Family & Life Magazine Issue 6 | Page 10

COVERSTORY Just Your Everyday Son, Husband and Father By Farhan Shah Ching Wei Hong might be the Chief Operating Officer in OCBC Bank and the Chairman of Families for Life but just like you and me, he can occasionally be exasperated with his teenage children. We sit down with him, coffee in hand, and discuss his thoughts about the struggles of the average Singaporean family. We are seated around the glass dining table and Ching, who has made himself comfortable at the head of the table, is telling me about his idea to collaborate with the Ministry of Social and Family Development (MSF) to organise lunchtime talks for parent employees in OCBC Bank. “It would be great to have a talk about, for example, handling difficult teens!” Ching says jokingly before giving a knowing, almost imperceptible glance at his two teenage children, Marianne and Christian. “I think there would be a huge audience on that day!” In spite of its subtlety, the silent glance spoke volumes about Ching’s everyday worries. He might be the COO for OCBC Bank, ranked the second strongest bank in the world last year by Bloomberg Markets, but Ching Wei Hong is just like any other parent on the street, grappling with I told them I hardly embodied the concept of work-life balance! For many years, I struggled to get home in time to have dinner with my family. Once, my secretary even sat down with me and said: ‘Let’s try to plan one day in the week when you can get home on time to have dinner with your family.’ The plan never came into fruition. 10 Family & Life • Mar 2014 the pains of dealing with and raising a teenager (in his case, two) in the home while handling the everyday stressors of life. But if there is a person capable of understanding the intricacies of the adolescent mind, Ching would top the list, such is his dedication to the family cause in Singapore. “The family is a very important component of society. When I was growing up, I saw all the different family variations possible – single-parent families, broken families, etc. Yet, at the end of the day, there is nothing that can be compared to blood ties. Whether we like it or not, we are a son or a daughter, a father or a mother. This is my most important role – being a son and a father.” This unwavering devotion was the main reason why Ching was approached by the MSF in August 2013 to take over the reins of the former National Family Council, recently renamed to Families for Life. It was an opportunity he immediately took up without any hesitation. “Separately, I was already thinking of the different ways that I would be able to contribute back to society and when this chance came, I snapped it up,” says the father of two. Ching is no stranger to tackling such responsibilities; he served for two years on the board of the now defunct Businesses for Families Council. However, the father of two candidly admits that he is quite possibly one of the worst candidates for the leadership role. “It was actually one of the first few thoughts that crossed my mind when they approached me. I told them I hardly embodied the concept of work-life balance!” admits Ching good-naturedly. “For many years, I struggled to get home in time to have dinner with my family. Once, my secretary even sat down with