Family & Life Magazine Issue 2 | Page 18

FOCus She survived ... By Farhan Shah so can you cells are still confined to the milk ducts and has not yet spread to the rest of the breast. There was one problem though: the errant cells were very near the nipple, which meant that Theresa might potentially lose her “nicelooking enough nipple” in the event the doctor deemed it necessary during the operation. Theresa Tan took on breast cancer and won. Now, she wants to share her story with others. Her message: there is nothing to fear. Theresa Tan has a Captain America T-shirt in her wardrobe, not exactly the clothing of choice for most 46-yearolds. But, then again, Theresa is unlike your typical middle-aged Singaporean woman. The mother of three regularly updates her Instagram feed with photos of memorable moments, choice quotes and pet peeves, and has boldly gone to watch the One Direction film with her tweenage daughter (and lived to tell the tale). She’s even completed a few races. Theresa is also a breast cancer survivor and has been free of the scourge for more than three years now. While most women would have kept quiet, Theresa decided to chronicle her battle and recovery in a blog with the hope of helping others who were, and still are, fighting breast cancer. She’s also penned her experiences in a book titled A Clean Breast. “Writing this book was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done and it took such a long time. But, it was a story that had to be told to help women and their husbands to have hope and be strong when cancer hits,” says Theresa. I no longer see today as a prelude to tomorrow – today must be used up completely! 18 Family & Life • Oct 2013 Indeed, while Theresa’s life right now is a picture-perfect Instagram image of #bliss, it wasn’t too long ago when the former editor-in-chief of Elle Singapore was walking in a dark tunnel, with the light and the end nowhere in sight. It started out as a sharp pain in Theresa’s right breast. One mammogram and an excruciating biopsy later, Theresa was diagnosed with ductal carcinoma in situ (DCIS), or more commonly referred to as Stage 0 cancer. That’s when the cancerous For a while, although she admits it was quite ludicrous now looking back, Theresa was fretting over the potential loss of her nipple. “I considered going for chemotherapy so that I could possibly shrink the cancer growth and save my breast! It wasn’t a logical and sound idea though due to how the cancer cells were spread out,” says Theresa, “so, while I desperately wanted to save my nipple, I also knew deep inside that saving it could mean losing my life if I decided to wait any longer.” With thoughts of her family uppermost in her mind, Theresa bravely opted for the route that would get her up and running within the shortest possible time – a lumpectomy (where the surgeon attempts to remove all of the cancer without touching the nipple), and possibly a full mastectomy (if the nipple can’t be saved), followed by breast reconstruction. Thirteen hours after being wheeled into the operating theatre, Theresa came out, cancer-less and unfortunately, nipple-less as well — she had a full mastectomy and a breast reconstruction. The most dangerous portion of her journey was over but the hardest part was only just beginning. “It took me three months to get out of bed without feeling like death, and another three years before I began to feel like my body was 80 percent mine again.” Theresa acknowledges the massive influence her family played in her journey, putting aside their own troubles to support her as she clawed her way back to some semblance of normality. In fact, while the struggles of the breast cancer fighter are regularly highlighted in the media, the tribulations the supporting cast has to go through are rarely given much coverage, even though they are equally as important. “The shock of my discovery was bad for Kevin (my husband). I hadn’t seen him so wordless and pale