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the unfaithful spouse is willing to put in the work , you will be able to find a way to let them back into your heart .
5 . The unfaithful spouse should be willing to embrace your hurt and anger , and do all they can to help and support your through the pain . Telling you to ‘ get over it ’ is a cop-out , and indicates an unwillingness to face the consequences of the affair . ( Penn , Remedy for Cheating , 2014 )
To summarize , we , especially as Christians should walk circumspectly in our relationships , and realize that affairs start with emotional abandonment , whose main catalyst is infatuation . When your deepest emotions are shared with someone other than your spouse , you have abandoned the relationship with your spouse , and given it to another . In addition , in the case of all affairs , the whole family suffers , because , unless the two spouses are willing to work through the problems that led to the affair , the marriage is doomed to end in divorce .
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