Faith Filled Family Magazine December 2016 | Page 43

Between 2010 when we started
back at church to today, we have
grown so much together. The reward is the marriage we have today. You may be thinking that is
a lot of work. My question to you
is, who ever told you marriage
would not be work?

I was starting to understand her
more and more though all of this.

We truly have a marriage where
it is complete openness and you
can’t have a marriage in harmony without openness and vulnerability. We are proof that you can
drag your marriage to hell and
still come back with Heaven in
Marriage is a lot of work but when marriage. It can happen, but it
done right can become one of all has to start with both of you
your strengths. Sandy and I feel committing to God and his word,
that not only is our marriage our even if you don’t agree with God
strength, but communication is sometimes. You have to realone of our strongest strengths. ize the Bible is our guidepost on
You see, if people would treat many fronts, but especially martheir marriage the way they do riage.
their career then it can become
a strength too. Marriage and If you will start learning daily
communication can be studied about each other, growing in
and learned just like your career. Christ together through God’s
If you can study many hours a word, listen and go to everything
week for your career then you that will help your marriage, you
should be able to do the same can literally change the whole
for your marriage. When you direction of your marriage. This
start studying marriage and com- will not happen overnight, but in
munication, it starts to become a time. By starting today, you can
passion. You will start to see the do something positive for your
two of you becoming one.
marriage.
You will begin to see a closeness
that has never happened in your
marriage before, start to happen.
You will start seeing both of you
healing together. Remember, in
marriage it is not marrying the
right person as much as becoming the right person.
I found that over time Sandy
felt comfortable and vulnerable enough with me to open up
about how she felt through those
rough years. She started opening up on how I really treated her
back then. Many times she told
me things that I didn’t realize or
even remember. She finally understood that I was getting it and

Try to be patient with each other and give each other room to
grow. If Sandy didn’t give me that
room, we probably would not
be married today. We wouldn’t
have reached 14 years of marriage now and would not have
Lil’ Chris who is now almost 5

years old. I owe so much to my
amazing wife Sandy for standing
in the gap when I could not because of my addictions. When I
was weak, she stayed strong for
me. In the end we came back together stronger than ever!
That is what harmony is all
about. By doing just a few things
everyday, you can bring blissful
harmony back into your marriage! Don’t settle for an average
marriage when God wants you
to have an Inspired Marriage!
Chris Benton
Web: TheChrisBenton.com
Web: InspiredMarriage.com
FB: @TheChrisBenton
FB: @InspiredMarriage
Twitter: @TheChrisBenton
I am Chris Benton. I run a Christian Blog and am launching
a marriage ministry because
God’s purpose for mine and my
wife’s life is to help marriages.
I have been writing for several
years now and have found a
great passion in writing, so because of that I am writing a book
on my 19 years of addictions that
I finally walked away from over
8 years ago and we are writing a marriage book too! I have
also started creating short video
messages.