Faith Filled Family Magazine December 2016 | Page 42

is the same way.
When not in harmony, the tango
will look horrible and both people
will be so off rhythm that they will
not be able to make the dance
work. Yet when the tango is
working for both of them, it looks
like something magical. That is
how your marriage is supposed
to be. When one moves so does
the other, so they fit together.
Becoming one is not easy, but it
is worth it. When you and your
spouse are on the same page,
look out where you marriage can
go. You will see miracles made
throughout life because of your
marriage.
When Sandy and I first married, we were so on page people
thought it was cute. We did everything together. If I moved one
way, she moved with me or vice
versa. After my mom passed
away, we started to lose some
of that connection because I
went back to what I have always
known and that was drugs and
alcohol. My addictions had me
again. It was frightening, especially for her, she had never been
around any of that in her life.
After a few years into our marriage, we were starting to lose
that harmony and that started to
lead to a loss of passion. Passion develops when the two of
you are together on the same
page. When you aren’t, it is easy
to lose that passion. That was
starting to happen with us.
Sandy did her part to try to keep
us in harmony during those
rough years. If she was like most
women, she would have left,
because the harmony was leav-

ing our marriage. What we had
at the beginning was leaving.
When that happens, society tells
you to leave and that it is over.
Sandy just didn’t believe that.
She was committed. She was
so committed that she didn’t
listen to her feelings and loved
me anyway through those addictions. She took her frustrations
to God every night pleading with
him to heal my heart. That day
finally came on Dec. 26th, 2007
when I got completely sober. As
of this writing, I am going on 9
years sober and life together
now has been amazing.
This has been a process. It
hasn’t just come back together
because God healed my addictions. It has taken years of growing back together to get us where
we are today. I am telling you,
you can get that harmony back
because we are proof of that.
We did it and so can you. We are
more on one page today than we
have ever been. We realize now
why God wants harmony in marriage. It has been so awesome
to get to where we are today. I
want to point you in a few directions that helped us get here.

with God. My spouse and I used
to say the exact same thing. We
would listen to a few sermons
online and that’s it until we finally felt that God was telling us
we needed church and which
church we should go to. You can
go to my ma in blog to read that
story on how God led us back to
church.
The very first day we tried the
church God led us to we also
went to a small group. We were
all in and we were ready to be all
in. It is crazy how much we grew
from that first small group we
were part of. We were with them
for the first 1-2 years of being at
our church and it was amazing.
Also in this time period, we started not just reading the bible but
also reading books that help,
listening to several sermons per
week online and going to our
church. These were preachers
that we believed in. A couple we
have now been listening to most
weeks for 5 years. We have been
at our church for over 6 years as
well.

We go to every marriage seminar that we can and listen to
every marriage sermon that we
It was a few years after God can. Today we listen to 1-2 hours
healed me of my addictions that a night of marriage sermons,
we found the church that God communication sermons, and
wanted us to attend. This was a bible studies. We probably also
huge pivot point in our marriage. listen to 3-4 sermons throughout
We had no idea how significant the week on top of that to stay
this would be. We were still grow- connected. This is all outside
ing back together but I think we of our church. We would never
had stagnated at this point when use all of this to replace the local
God led us back to church.
church because the local church
is where you find community.
I know what you may be think- The local church is where you
ing. I don’t have to go to church will see many changes happen
to have a strong relationship within you when you are all in.