from your singleness into a
covenant marriage with another
human being. Therefore, if
anyone is in Christ, he is a new
creation, old things have passed
away; behold, all things have
become new. (II Cor. 5:17).
And you must move from a
selfish to a selfless and servant
attitude. Your pursuit must be in
finding ways to live in harmony
and peace with your spouse.
Your passion have to be about
sharing your life together. This
takes discipline, perseverance,
commitment and compassion.
If the sparkle in your marriage
goes out, take time out and look
into your inner most being to see
how you can restore the joy and
bring back the romance into your
marriage. Instead of affixing
blame, examine your heart.
Created in me a clean heart,
O God, and renew a steadfast
Spirit within me. Restore to me
the joy of Your salvation, and
uphold me by your gracious
spirit. (Psalms 51:10; 12).
Remember your priorities and
the sacred pledge you made to
your spouse. Take the intiative
to show your spouse that you
love him/her and how important
it is that you two reconnect. Here
are some suggestions on how to
expess this.
II Call and Say, “I’m coming
home early this evening and
would enjoy sitting down talking
to you about what we can do
together to rearrange my job
schedule that we can spend
more quality time as a couple.”
III Approach her and say, “I’ve
noticed that you are scheduled
to volunteer at the Commmunity
Center this Saturday for a few
hours. I would enjoy going with
you and afterwards we can go
out for lunch at your favorite
restaurant.”
of your siblings, your friends
or the neighboros. God is the
mastermind of marriage. And
He has a divine plan for your
marriage. For I know the plans
I how for you, declares the
Lord, plans to prosper you and
to give you hope and a future.
(Jer. 29:11). God desires your
marriage to flurish as an example
for the world to follow. And
your marriage should always
represent your faithfulness to
God that’s based upon your
covenant realitionship with the
Lord. Here are some essential
characteristic both husband and
wife should practice.
lV Take hold of your spouse and
say, “I love you. My life is empty
without you, baby.”
· Cherish the covenant
partnership by loving and
V Praise her and say, “It’s respecting your spouse
amazing how you take care of · Touching and agreeing in
the kids. What can I do to help?” prayer everyday
· Build up with words of
Vl Look into your spouse’s eyes Affirmation Refuse to tear down
and say, “ I’ve been thoughtless with affixing blame or speaking
and insensitive and taken you negative and harsh words to
and our marriage for granted. I your spouse
just want to hold you close and · Encourage ~ Don’t cricitize
reassure that you are important · Affirm with loving statements: I
to me.”
love you ~You’re vaulable to me
~ I want you
VII Other ideas: Going jogging, · Focus on their strength rather
walking or running together in than their weakness
the park and afterwards have a
picnic expressing your love to No marriage comes with a lifetime
each other ~ Arrange a romantic warranty of absoulte perfection.
weekend together ~Surprise Throughout your marriage the
l Write a love note stating, “I your spouse with a romantic husband and wife must pursue
apologize that I’ve been too candle light dinner ~ Have a God relentlessly and commit
busy to spend time time with you monthly datenight ~ Leave love to trust in His divine direction
and express how much I love notes in specific places that you completely. The image of your
you and how vaulable you are in know they are likely to find them. marriage is to reflect the selfless
our marriage. Please forgive me.
love of God through the means
I’m bringing home your favorite For your marriage to survive you love and respect each other.
meal and made arrangements through difficult times, you must By applying the principles of
for us to have an intimate dinner be willing to invest time to get God to strengthen the foundatin
tonite.” (Make sure to arrange the love back. Each marriage is of your marriage whereby, you
for a a babysitter to keep the different and you should never commit to live together and bring
childern)
compare your marriage to that glory and honor to God.