Ewya Magazine Issue 4 November & December 2016 | Page 13

Define Your

Confidence
By Candice Wilson
A core belief is a belief that is so strongly
ingrained into the fabric of your being, that you
believe it to be the absolute truth. Once this
belief becomes entrenched in your thinking it will
take a lot of hard work to change it, but it can be
changed to a healthy belief.
Negative belief structures are so easy to form
and they can have a lifelong impact on your
happiness. As a child, I loved to sing and dance.
When I was in grade 1, I tried out for the choir,
excitement and pure joy bubbled out of me as
I started singing. I was crushed as the teacher
walked passed me and proclaimed loudly “she
can’t sing”. Some part of my childhood happiness
died that day and I never sang in public again
unless the music was loud enough to drown me
out or I saved it for the car where no one could
hear me. I was terrified of what people would say
if they heard me. This one small thing robbed
me of my joy of singing. At that moment, a belief
was created that I couldn’t sing.

If anyone looked at me while I was singing
along to a song, I would immediately clamp
my mouth shut and not sing another note for
the rest of the evening. Everyone can sing,
some of us just sound like a cat being
murdered but if you love singing. Then NO
one should tell you that you can’t. Let the
neighbours bang on the walls and sing your
heart out.
This is just one example of how easy it is to
form a belief. It was such a small event and
the teacher probably never gave it another
thought, but to me, it was HUGE and life
altering event.
To fully embrace your self-confidence you
need to work through your beliefs,
especially the ones that are a conditioned
response. Weed out the ones that no longer
serve you or steal your happiness and create
a new set of healthy beliefs

Ewya Nov 2016 -13