Is this a roundabout way of saying less pressure and less stress ? Yes , yes it is . Fewer people means fewer eyes to cast judgment on your choices , fewer schedules to take into consideration , fewer special requests to accommodate and so on and so forth . It also allows for more breathing room , both literally and in terms of the day ’ s timetable , and even the chance for happy surprises along the way .
“ We were able to leave the outside stress and pressures behind and focus on being present in the moment .” — Ariel and James
“ While it was extremely challenging to have to drastically reduce our guest list , having a small guest list did result in a very low-stress and laid back event . We were able to set up the reception site ( as it was in Julia ’ s mom ’ s back yard ) days in advance , eliminating tasks for the day of . We were able to fully focus on each other without getting too absorbed in the less important details . A little less structure in the day meant less room for ‘ errors .’ Despite having so many changes leading up to the day , our excitement continued to grow , which lead to true bliss on our wedding day .” — Julia and Chris
More Opportunity
When not forced to budget for multiple rented spaces or numerous meals , you ’ re afforded the room to reallocate those funds for additional dream vendors , such as a videographer or a live band who was previously out of price range , or costs you once considered ‘ extra ,’ like some first dance choreography lessons . And , money aside , a smaller wedding often accounts for a shorter , more flexible time line , which may work better for high-demand vendors ’ schedules .
“ We were able to get a pizza truck and score Mackenzie as our photographer which we don ’ t know if we would have been able to if we went the traditional route .” — Paige and John
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“ Our day never felt hectic or rushed like we have heard so many others complain about .” — Courtney and Matt
“ I got to wake up at a reasonable time the morning of , grab coffee with some of my closest girlfriends and really take in the day , the weather and the presence of God who was in every detail of our day . We were able to mingle with our guests and not have the pressure of so many eyes on us . We remember the whole day and it didn ’ t feel rushed ! I highly recommend the smaller weddings for the sacred and intimate moments that are otherwise often missed .” — Paige and John
More Time With Your Guests
It ’ s hard to narrow down your guest list , we get it . But think about it : When you have a 200-person guest list , you ’ re not very likely to get more than a three-minute interaction with that old friend of your dad ’ s or with that coworker from three jobs ago .
“ Having such a small guest list allowed us to spend meaningful time with everyone . After our ceremony , we sat down for an amazing dinner party in the Vineyard ' s barrel room , perfect for a small gathering . My parents gave a perfect joint speech , we all shared stories , Matt ’ s siblings played endless games of I-Spy with my niece and we stuffed ourselves until we were uncomfortably full . During a time when so much had been uprooted in our dayto-day lives and we had spent so much time apart from those we loved , it was great to have a day so close to our families and each other where we could focus on the positives .” — Courtney and Matt
“ The biggest benefit of having a smaller wedding was getting to spend quality time with your partner and your loved ones . Especially after a year of Zoom calls and distance , we really enjoyed the intimacy , simplicity and safety of the small gathering . We obviously missed our broader group of friends and family , but looking back , we wouldn ’ t change a thing !” — Kari and Richard
More Time With Your Partner
Most importantly , a micro wedding grants you the time and space to recognize just why a gathering was planned in the first place : to celebrate your love and your future together . Instead of wasting the allotted five-hour rental making the rounds , you can truly spend the evening by each other ’ s sides , taking it all in together .
“ The entire day we felt so enabled to enjoy and appreciate each other , which may have been more challenging with a larger plan .” — Julia and Chris
“ It really put a highlight on the true meaning of the day : our commitment to one another and beginning the rest of our lives together as one family .”— Courtney and Matt
“ We were able to spend more one-on-one time with each other , as well as enjoy time after the wedding celebrating with friends and family . Although money was saved in the process , the time our small wedding gave to us was irreplaceable .” — Ariel and James
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