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5. 6. 7. 8. purpose. If you are not leading, gender is not the reason. When Sheba escaped into Abel, the residents were put at risk. The city came under siege and was about to be destroyed along with its dwellers. However, this wise woman arose and became an intermediary for her people. She reached an agreement with Joab, and this no doubt pleased her people because when she returned to speak with them, they were willing to do as she said. Notice that they followed her lead willingly and none mentioned her gender. She had become a deliverer; therefore, her gender did not matter. This mother in Israel did not ask to speak to anyone other than Joab because she knew only he could make the final decision as far as that circumstance was concerned Wise women are bold and fearless. This woman was not afraid to confront Joab although he was supposed to be an enemy out to destroy her and the city in which she dwelt. Wise women are intermediaries. They stand between their people and the enemy seeking a resolution to the issues at hand and the restoration of peace to everyone concerned. Wise women identify the one with whom they should dialogue. This mother in Israel did not ask to speak to anyone other than Joab because she knew only he could make the final decision as far as that circumstance was concerned. Many times, we waste precious time discussing with people who are in no position to give us what we want. Before you enter dialogue, you must first ensure that the person you are dialoguing with has the authority to give you what you want, else you would have wasted your time. 9. Great women choose their battles carefully. They know when there is no need to fight. And when there is no need to fight, they refrain from fighting. War is not always the answer to peace. 10. Great women do not take on matters that do not concern them. They have no time for sentiments. Sheba had a problem with David obviously because he was a rebel but that did not concern the people of the city of Abel as they were not part of his rebellion. The mother in Israel ensured that her community did not suffer for Sheba’s rebellion. It was no business of theirs, and they were not going to get involved. She was a wise woman, a great woman, and a leader. Wise women go the extra mile to prove their loyalty. Joab asked her to deliver DOZ Magazine | May 2020 Sheba, and he and his men would leave the city. The woman went the extra mile by offering him Sheba’s head so he would be assured Sheba was dead and no longer a threat. I believe she did this to demonstrate to Joab that she and indeed the entire inhabitants of the city were on David’s side and not only ready to surrender Sheba but to kill him themselves. So, when Joab departed from the city, there was no doubt in his heart as to the loyalty of those people to King David. 10