and this is a dangerous situation for
anyone to be in. Rejection often leads
to anger, guilt, loneliness, fear, and
grief. Some victims of rejection become
rebellious, critical about everything
and everyone, vengeful, and of course,
develop low self-esteem.
8. After Amnon raped Tamar, she
so they sabotage whatever good seeks to
find its way into their lives. Self-sabotage
was the reason Tamar begged her abuser
to marry her. It was possibly a reason she
remained desolate.
11. Until you love yourself you will
consciously or unconsciously sabotage
every step you take in the right direction;
the reason is simple, you think you don’t
deserve that which is good, and a lack
of love for yourself creates that thought.
Until you love yourself, you cannot truly
love another. Until you love yourself, you
will continuously be in search of love.
However, you will be unable to find it,
for you will fail to recognise it should it
appear, and you will accept in its place
that which is not the real deal.
undoubtedly hated herself and was filled
with self-disgust. This is usually the
case for a lot of women who have been
raped or sexually abused, especially by
members of their family who should
have protected them from such ordeal.
9. After Tamar was raped, she not hated
herself, but in her own eyes, her value
dropped. Suddenly, the man who was not
worthy of her because he had raped her
and mistreated her became perfect for
her, and she begged him to let her stay.
Perhaps you can relate because there is
a Tamar in every woman who has been
hurt or is hurting. It never occurred to
her that there was something better
ahead of her. That her best days were not
behind her but before her; that she could
still have her dreams and even live life
to the fullest. She was willing to settle
for less. Don’t settle for less. Don’t let
your traumatic experience fool you into
thinking you no longer qualify for the
best.
12. Tamar embodies many different
types of women. She is the woman
with daddy issues, who has been let
down by her father. The woman who
has made sacrifices and continues to
make sacrifices for her family and is
unappreciated.The woman who has been
rejected by men who claimed to love
her and made her promises they never
kept. The woman who has been used and
discarded without a thought. The woman
who is crying on the inside. The woman
who is dejected, devastated, depressed,
isolated, and lonely. The woman who is
misunderstood and hated. The woman
who has given up and can no longer
pursue her dreams. The woman who
has experienced domestic violence. The
woman who has experienced sexual
abuse and incest. The woman who has
been raped. The woman who has been
robbed. The woman who has been
oppressed and silenced. This is Tamar.
Can you relate?
10. Lack of self-love makes a woman
remain in an abusive relationship to
her detriment. Lack of self-love leads
to promiscuity, jealousy, addiction and
destructive habits, prostitution, and
being critical of others and life. Women
who do not love themselves are usually
saboteurs of their good. They believe
they do not deserve anything good, and
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