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from the one I love . Therefore , she is empowered to exercise her command authority as she sees fit .
PC : Who is more protective of the family ? Spiritually speaking ?
Hayes : Everyone who knows us thinks we are spiritually fanatical , but we are just passionate people and we recognize strength not only in numbers but in the scope of family health . So , we are always seeking ways to fortify each other spiritually and insuring everyone has the best opportunity for success .
PC : Lady Donna , how important is it for First Ladies to be secure in their position as a woman and a leader ?
Donna : It is important for a First lady or any lady for that matter to first be secure in her position as a child of God and be secure in her relationship with Him this will then allow her not to be bothered by labels others will certainly attempt to place on her and give her the assurance that she is valuable and awesome first in the eyes of Christ . She must keep her eyes on God because if she begins to look and focus on others she will become reliant on what others say to validate her and manipulate her into doing what they want . But focusing on God she will do what God wants and her leadership abilities will stand no matter what tries to come against her . As a woman I speak in harmony with other great women as a leader I speak from individual accountability to God and I am secure in both of those roles .
PC : What advice would you share with single ( women and men ) who are seeking a godly mate ?
Hayes : The first piece of advice we would give is to ask the question would you marry you ? And if the answer is no or even a hesitation then our suggestion would be to work on those things that turn you off . Once you have presented your best self then let your anointing find your mate .
PC : Do you believe that there is only one SOULMATE for everyone ? Explain .
Hayes : We do not believe there is just one soulmate for everyone because God creates using One Power , God imputes this power into everyone , souls are easy to unite God does that the difficulty is being unwavering in what attributes you require to be happy . God ’ s beauty is deep man ’ s desire is skin deep once we stop being attracted to what society tells us is acceptable ; once we stop masquerading before the world then we will be able to relax and enjoy soulful moments . We truly believe we can be mated soulfully with any of God ’ s children and we also truly believe a physical match is difficult because of all the worldly criticisms we are subjected to . Fat can go with skinny , tall can go with short , black can go with white , ugly can go with fine , rich can go with poor because at the end of the day only God matters .
PC : Pastor Sam , should Men of God be the bread winners for the family ?
Sam : I don ’ t think I can appreciate a bread winner model that is inflexible what I do appreciate is how we collectively break bread together and give thanks . The biblical example shows in this case prosperity comes , at the end of the day I am not asking God where it came from as long as it found its way to bless us . If I leaned heavily on man as the bread winner I make a few mistakes first , I subordinate women in their profession , second mistake is the assumption my flesh will never fail and third as a family we must come to grips with there may come a time those children who relied so heavily on us will be the most reliable
resources .
PC : What was the hardest things about becoming ONE ?
Hayes : The hardest thing about becoming one in this stage of our lives where experience has already tainted , and life has already disappointed and the journey has been replete with obstacles was to get my wife to forget all that is past join hands with me and press . I will say this because I am a man and men have not really done a good job protecting and nurturing and loving women to include myself I am not infallible therefore I wake up every morning I pull the sheets back from on my wife ’ s feet I lay my head on them I pray God ’ s blessing and I humbly , apologetically , lovingly kiss both of her feet before I start each day . What this shows is that even if I mess up she realizes that I am willing each day to humble myself before her .
PC : As parents of a blended family , were there any challenges in your marriage ?
Hayes : YES . Next question …. Our suggestion would be get yourself a cocker spaniel they are wonderful !
PC : If you could change one thing in your lives together , what would it be ?
Hayes : Believe it or not we wouldn ’ t change a thing . Everything that is happening in our lives is God ordained it all works together for our good because we love God and are the called according to His purpose .
PC : What is your view on submission in marriage ? How does it play out in your relationship ?
Hayes : First , this is a hang up in our society ; an un-Christian like fight for authority . Truly anyone totally vested in answering the specifics of this question has inadvertently admitted there is a problem of control that is a very personal reflection . A marriage is so vastly diversified if we take a stance that every time a marriage crosses the threshold the same person must submit then someone needs to explain to us why this submissive person is necessary in a relationship . It is like being a corporate CEO and surrounding yourself with yes people . The intent of Biblical submission is not reflected in the thirst for power it is a recognition that a couple must discern who at any given moment is anointed to speak for the oneness in the relationship . In our relationship and believe us , you are speaking to two of the most competitive people in the history of mankind we still haven ’ t gotten through our first game of Monopoly after 10 years . However , in our relationship we know who God is directing to address any given situation the best it is absolutely obvious and the other always submit .
PC : What does being a Power Couple mean to you ?
Hayes : First , let us say thank you ; truly believing humility is the key to power . Everything anyone sees in us as valuable has been granted by God ’ s Power . If in the process of discerning God ’ s command , we have been described as powerful then we humbly receive this as the fruit of rewards . Being a Power Couple for us means always putting God first in every area of our relationship allowing ourselves to be weak so He is strong , being vulnerable in order to love and working together as a team and making sure that Nothing Comes between us !