WHAT GOD PUTS TOGETHER
Perserverance in
Marriage
Article by Dr. Tunishai Ford
Every day I am reminded of how fragile our marriage institution has become. If it were flesh and blood, I would say that it would be an endangered species, because very few people have a clue of what marriage truly entails. I would dare to say that marriage for most couples today is just a day of festivities where you get to eat, drink and be merry and totally disregard the vows that were said. I do not want to speak negatively about marriage because I still believe in the sanctity and covenant of marriage. Most women are into marriage because it fulfills their childhood dreams of having a wedding, and the men may be excited because it means having someone, they think they are in love with (The one they are physically attracted to, whatever that means). But how many people really take out the time to think about just what marriage entails and what it really means to God? I am inclined to think not too many when the divorce rate has drastically gone up, especially in the last ten years.
I hear horror stories all the time of how couples spend a lot of money, over ten thousand dollars for a wedding, and they have all the details mapped out. They hire a wedding planner; they plan the most
exquisite honeymoon and all their friends and family gather at a beautiful romantic setting to experience the nuptials. Many of these couples do not even stay married a year.
Now, let me place something on your mind. How many couples do you think make plans to deal with each other for the rest of their lives; how to get along and maintain a peaceful, pleasant atmosphere in their homes and how to keep the flame burning in their marriages beyond the honeymoon? What about admiration and respect for each other? Just how many couples make plans like that? Again, from the number of divorces that are on the rise, not too many.
The ideology of perseverance in a marriage is very slim to none. Couples allow the smallest incident to encourage them to dissolve a marriage or to separate. The line of communication is broken, and they spend most of their time arguing and fighting over things that aren't worth the effort.
Well, who do you think is to blame? Is it the system? When a couple goes to court for a divorce, all they have to say is irreconcilable differences and the judge will not question it. Could it be the couple's