BEFORE YOU SAY, "I DO!"
say that he would not expect a woman to be any more than he could expect to be. In other words, he understood that he had to be the one to get the one. Many people go into relationships or hope to enter into one without being the best they can be. Some men think it is okay to be a slob and lazy, and they want a woman to accept that and wait on him hand and foot. There are women who have no ambition at all, and they want a man to marry them just to have their needs met with no intention of giving anything back; she is a leach or as it has been said a “Gold digger”.
What is unfortunate is that many men and women like that will actually find someone to marry them. But if you are truly seriously considering being a great candidate for marriage, begin now while you are single—a unique and whole individual, to start working on yourself. You are not perfect, but you can work on those areas that you know you are flawed and improve in those areas. There is not a perfect person in the earth, but when you possess the fruit of the Spirit, and you work on other areas such as your personality, physical qualities, financial
stability, you can be a good catch and you will attract someone who is also the same. God is concerned about your every request and He wants to perfect those areas that concern you (Psalm 138: 8).
If you have been waiting a long time, maybe you should take a look in the mirror and ask yourself, “Am I a good catch?” “Would I be someone that God would be pleased to bless someone with? Am I making an effort to change in those areas that would make it hard for someone to live with me?” Be honest and give those areas over to God, if you need help in certain areas. If you say to yourself, I have worked on myself and I am truly ready, then wait patiently; occupy yourself and let your special someone find you busy and not sitting idle. All things are possible to him that believes (Mark 9: 23), and God believes in you.
"You are not perfect, but you can work
on those areas that
you know you are flawed and improve
in those areas."
" If you say to yourself, I have worked on myself and I am truly ready, then wait patiently; occupy yourself ...."