“You’ve Got to be The One to get The One”
Article by Dr. Tunishai Ford
Oftentimes, we look for qualities in a potential spouse that will help us feel like we have hit the jackpot. We want someone on our arm that would make others see that we have found someone that is actually worthy of our time. That person is everything you ever wanted in a man or women. You prayed for years for he or her and they are finally here, you think as you gaze across the room staring at them wishing they would just notice you, a little. Ah yes, how many of you have been there? Daydreaming about that person that you are hoping that God will bring into your life as you look at someone you find attractive or admire the couple sitting in the diner booth wishing it could be you and that special someone.
It has been thirty years or more and you are still waiting. It appears as though you are not getting any closer to that prayer being answered. Is your prayer getting through to God? Doesn't He see your anguish? You remind Him that you are not getting any younger and His time table is just not getting it for you. I believe God does hear your prayers and knows you want to get married, but there are prerequisites that must be met first,
especially if you want God involved. Don’t envy your friends because with many of them it was their own doing. You see the outer display of the union, but often you have no knowledge of what actually goes on behind closed doors.
As I mentioned previously, there are prerequisites, and many ignore them, or they just aren’t interested in finding out what they are to have a successful marriage. The bible gives instructions and places principles in the book to teach us how to be successful and fulfilled in every area of our lives, and of course that means marriage too. It is not the institution of marriage that is failing, it is the participants in the marriage that makes it fail. When two whole, and complete individuals decide to get married and they work on having the characteristics of God (the fruit of the spirit), they can begin experiencing a marriage that was intended for them to enjoy. You must be equally yoked; and that is not limited to spiritual matters. How can two walk to together unless they agree (Amos 3:3). Be ye not unequally yoked (II Corinthians 2: 14).
I once knew a gentleman who use to