WHAT GOD HAS PUTS TOGETHER
Being Free from Damaged Emotions in Your Marriage
Article by Dr. Tunishai Ford
You have tolerated the pain because you do not know what to do, and the choices that you come up with have consequences that you may not want to necessarily face. Therefore, what is the solution? Can your marriage be saved? Will your damaged emotions be healed?
Well, I am here to tell you that there is a remedy; all is not lost. In the previous paragraph, I stated that the solution to your emotional hurt is dealing with you. No, don't blame you for your hurts, but rather look inside of you for your healing. I want you to begin to finally see yourself as a single entity. Yes, see yourself as a single person-whole, separate, and unique. Dismiss the notion just for a moment that you are married and focus solely on the whole, separate, and unique person that you desire to be. Begin to see yourself through God's eyes. Many of the emotional traumas that you experience in a marriage are a result of your desire to have your partner validate and cater to your needs. If either desire is not met, then you feel abandoned, rejected, and
Last year and part of this year has been a challenge for many people, including myself. It's a new year and I do not intend to continue to watch anyone destroy themselves-especially emotionally. In the long run, the only people who will be hurting will be the innocent; therefore, we must come to grips with this plight, confront it head on and defeat it.
Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the Lord delivers him out of them all (Psalms 34: 19, KJV).
This year I would like to encourage all of you married couples to work on one thing and one thing alone---YOU. Many of you who are reading this article right now have been married for many years. You have experienced a lot of disappointments in your marriage to the point where you may have desired to just throw in the towel. The pain you have felt and are feeling are deeply rooted because it has been festering for years.