Dey Dos Magazine January March 2014 | Page 26

FORGET PURPOSE, MIX YOUR COLORS AND BE A DA VINCI ! I always heard that a critical factor of success was to have ambitious goals and a clear vision of the future. As a result, I spent many years of my life designing a plan for my future, creating vision boards and trying to identify what my purpose was in life. Today, I find myself living a ‘future’ that I never imagined. The things I wished and hoped for didn’t actually happen, but other things I never envisioned became my reality. How did this happen? I never imagined to be living where I live now or to be involved in the businesses I have. What got me to where I am were a series of random events that I never planned and today, at the age of 34, what I have realized is that having plans and dreams is important, but for me, what they give me is a sense of direction and not the certainty of arrival to a destination. What really determines where I actually end up is probably a combination of other factors. ! What I’ve learned from my own experience, and that of others, is that we no longer have total control of where we go. The world and the people around us move fast and the industries and societies we are in contact with are reinvented everyday. Our environment and the people around us also change and therefore the possibilities and opportunities we have available to us are constantly changing also. What is more, we as individuals also change, we mature with age and our understanding of the world and ourselves evolves, highlighting new needs, wishes and desires. It is therefore natural that our goals, dreams and sense of purpose also change. ! “! For me, what is important now is ‘why’ we do what we do and specially, how we approach the ever-changing world we have today. ! Four Traits To Successfully Approach The Future! Here are the four traits that I consider critical to successfully approach the future (or rather ‘present’ I shall say!):! 1.  Developing our ability to spot opportunities: We must develop the ability to listen to the opportunities that life present to us. They might not be what we have envisaged in our ‘plan’ or for our life but I’ve learned that seizing the opportunities that life present to us can lead us to places you could have never planned or imagined and these are the places that can allow you to create your dent in the universe. ! 2.  Being Resilient: In this ever changing and highly competitive world we will all experience failure, sudden change or hardship; we have to have the ability bounce back and recover quickly from these difficulties and be able to spring back into shape. ! We should not dwell in what we lost or didn’t achieve, but rather focus on what we can do with what we have in front of us, because that is exactly what can help us move forward. ! ! ! ! ! ! life design ! ! ! The belief that I had (and many people still have!), that we have one purpose and that we have to discover what that is and create a plan to make it happen, is for me somehow old fashioned, limiting and outdated. 3.  Having an Internal Locus of Control: A person with an internal locus of control believes they can control their life whereas a person with an external locus of control believes that their decisions and life are controlled by environmental factors that they cannot influence. Having an internal locus of control is renouncing to being victim of the circumstances and the excuses and rather taking ownership for your reality and the initiative to change it.! ! And finally, ! Why would you expect your vision of the future to be the same as to when you were seventeen and when the reality of the world was so different to what you are and where you are today? ! 4.  Being Prolific: An artist who is prolific is someone who produces lots of different works or work simultaneously across different disciplines. Leonardo Da Vinci was prolific; he was a painter, an astronomer, a mathematician and an engineer. He never chose ‘one’ dream or purpose, but rather, he explored all the passions he had. He concentrated in producing work (or what Seth Godin would refer to today as ‘Shipping’). Da Vinci never chose to become who he became and made a plan to get there. It was the extensive amount of work and art that he created that crafted his role in history and not the other way around.! ! The Delusion! I think that forcing yourself to find your purpose and define a vision of the future can be paralyzing and limiting. In fact, I actually believe it is a ‘delusion’. Let me explain why:! We cannot exclusively work towards a specific goal or purpose, we should work towards the values and emotions that drive us and towards having lots of options open which can lead to many possible futures. Hence, ‘what’ we do becomes irrelevant because with time it would change. ! 26 | Dey Dos Magazine ! Forget about discovering what your purpose is or about creating plans for the future. We are a constant reinvention and evolution of purposes, goals, dreams and desires and our lives become the beautiful result of this ever-changing spectrum of colors and flavors. !