Do you deeply and intimately Love yourself?
But how do we Love ourselves? !
After two years of experience as a Life Coach and a hard
process of getting to Love myself, I have identified 3
important steps:!
1. Accept yourself completely. You have your talents and
your limitations, like everybody else, it is a matter of
choice where you will direct your energy, and what you
give attention to, grows. !
Photo by Annemiek Leuvenink at weHOST 2013, Portugal.!
This is a YES or NO question. !
I don´t believe that any kind of love can be measured in
70% yes, or 50-50, or sometimes yes – sometimes no. !
So I invite you to take another look at this question,
gather all the courage and vulnerability that you can find
within yourself, and give a straight answer! !
If the answer is YES, I congratulate you with all my heart!
You are on the right track! If the answer is NO, please
allow me to open an honest conversation about Love
and to share from my experience. !
I believe in Love as the ultimate
power and energy. !
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This incredible force is the source of all creation,
including yours, mine and everyone else’s on this planet. !
I choose to believe that Love is the answer to everything.
And that Love can appear in many forms, that´s why it
can be the answer for everything: there is the Love for
family, friends or for a significant other, there is the Love
for animals, nature, contribution, for a hobby and for
what we do for a living, there is the Love for a stranger
who just smiled to us, the Love for the hard moments as
they are filled with lessons, the Love for a special object
that we use as a totem, the Love for each moment we
breathe and the Love for all Humanity, and ultimately
there is the Love for ourselves. And I believe that is here
where should start. !
You are made of lights and shadows, and you can serve
the world from both places, by having the courage to
shine and the vulnerability to ask for help when you are
in your dark moments. !
2. Forgive yourself. There is no point in living your life with
blame, anger or frustration. !
One thing you can do is to write a letter, in which you
break down in small details everything that you can’t
forgive yourself for: all the lies, all the mistakes, all the
blame, and after you poor it all out, make a ritual of
burning the letter and letting go of everything. Trust that
the universe will take care of it and that new and clean
space is created inside of you. !
3. Practice gratitude. Everything that you have been
through, all your high and low moments, make you the
person that you are today. And everything was the best
that could have happened. So look for the lesson in all
your pain and take pride in all your achievements. And
then make gratitude the alpha and omega of your every
day. !
Journaling about what you are grateful for or using
gratitude as a mediation mantra, are ways to practice
this art. !
4. Own your personal power. Learn to say YES and
learn to say NO, to yourself and to others. You have your
boundaries, which deserve to be respected and
expressed. People´s feelings and opinions don´t depend
on you, you are responsible for your own feelings and
beliefs. !
Amalia Ghiban is a free spirited woman driven by the power of Love.
She was born and raised in Romania, and she´s based in Portugal for the last 6 years.
Her economic studies opened the path for a business-financial career. After 5 years of
corporate jobs like: banker, consultant, project manager or treasury operative, she
took one year break to figure out things for herself. And it was this year the time
where she discovered her spiritual path and her purpose in life.
Since 2012 she is freelancing as a life coach, serving others to live the lives that they
truly deserve, more fulfilling, more confident and more authentic.
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Amalia Ghiban