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This is where healthy boundaries come into play , and getting comfortable with saying “ no ” will be of benefit . From her article “ 3 Ways to Set Boundaries and Learn to Say ‘ No ’”, therapist Jennifer Rollin says that the first step in learning to set boundaries is to uncover your own personal limits and guidelines . Simply put , it ’ s learning to tune in to your inner voice – something I talk about in my book The Gift of a Happy Mother . When you get crystal clear about exactly what you want , what you believe , and why , your own voice will be able to rise above all others and lead you . The second step is the learn how to tolerate the reactions of others . People may get disappointed or even angry when you set boundaries , but that isn ’ t your problem . You ’ re only responsible for your own reactions and behaviors , so don ’ t feel guilty if you let someone down because you ’ re prioritizing what ’ s right for your family . Her third step is to engage in acts of compassionate self-care .
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