Organize everything the night before . We all know that starting off the morning in a frantic scramble leads to frustration and a bad start to the day , so I like to try to prevent as much of that chaos as I can by getting organized the night before . If your children are little , visual charts are very helpful for teaching them the necessary steps , such as laying out an outfit , packing lunch , gathering whatever is needed for the next day ’ s school and activities , brushing teeth , gathering shoes , bathing , and all of the habits you want to instill . Older kids can do well with a checklist until they get the routine down . This cuts out “ I don ’ t know what to wear ” and “ I can ’ t find my shoes !” When it ’ s already in order and ready to go , you ’ re more likely to sail the morning with ease .
Set three connection points . Life can get pretty hectic once the school year gets rolling , and it ’ s easy to lose connection with our kids . When that happens , though , things go downhill quickly . They may start acting out , having tantrums and emotional outbursts , and become less cooperative when they feel disconnected , so it ’ s good to be intentional about setting three connection points each day to love on your kids and check in with them emotionally . I recommend first thing in the morning , right after school , and again before bed . Show affection , say something affirming , listen , and give your full attention for at least a few minutes at each connection point . It ’ s a great way to thwart behavior problems and stay close to your kids through the busyness .
Mind your calendar , your yeses , and your boundaries . Only you know what level of busyness you are comfortable with , and that ’ s different for each person . Be intentional about minding your calendar so that it doesn ’ t become overstuffed with activities that don ’ t add value to your lives .
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