Creative Child October 2019 | Page 28

editor’s choice My children really understood this simple little visual, and it became a stepping stone to teach emotions regulation and behavior management. I discussed with my children how they could use each light and gave them tools to use at every step. Red light!   I would say this phrase when I saw one of the kids (or both) getting hot under the collar. I gave them several options to do during red light, including walking away, sitting down, and taking deep breaths. If someone was very angry and I saw that he needed my help stopping, I’d step in and offer my assistance. “Let’s take a walk together” or “put up your moose antlers and let’s take 3 deep breaths.” I helped my child calm down repetitively but over time, he started being able to calm himself. This was a big win! 27