Quality Time
Children who speak this love language seek
undivided attention. For a child whose love language
is quality time, you may often hear the request, “Can
you put your phone down?” It’s easy to mistaken
time spent together as quality time. But there is no
fooling a child who gets his love bucket filled with
quality time. Quality time is about focus. It can be
had through conversations, sharing a meal together,
or engaging in the same activity side by side, even
when words are scarce. Quality time requires that
you are either focused on the child, or on the same
thing the child is focused on. For a child with siblings,
some shuffling may be required to find one-on-one
time with either mom or dad.
Physical Touch
A child whose love language is physical touch will
continue to cherish hugs, kisses, a touch on the arm,
a pat on the back, wants to literally feel their love.
There are many ways to speak this language. You can
read them a story while the child sits on your lap,
hold his hand while walking, or even by spinning
him around in the air.
Though children receive love best from one
dominant love language, that’s not to say they won’t
need the other expressions of love. A child who
feels love most deeply through a gift, can and most
probably will appreciate encouraging words or a hug.
But your efforts to communicate love will be more
effective by focusing on his main love language.
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