EDITOR ’ S PICK
When we help others and make them feel happy , we gain a sense of accomplishment and learn that we can spread happiness . This boosts self-esteem and makes us more capable of connecting with others .
Formulate a positive narrative .
Forming a positive narrative is like looking at a cup half full , but creating a story about how the cup came to be half full . If Timmy is upset because his younger brother just told him he hates him , help Timmy form a different narrative than what meets the eye . His brother likely does not hate him , you might explain , but perhaps loves him so much he does not know how to handle disappointment coming from his older brother . Remind Timmy of the many times his brother has told him he loves him , as well as some of the thoughtful things he has done in the past . Validate Timmy ’ s feelings as it ’ s not ok to tell someone you hate them . But teach Timmy that anger is not the result of what happened but what we tell ourselves has happened . Ultimately , we have the final say in how we feel .
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