Connections Quarterly Summer 2020 - Dialogues Across Difference | Page 9

THE GI FT O F D I FFE RE N C E “ tive and know that I will be validated for the fact that that is my truth. Others may challenge my ideas, but that challenge is in the spirit of greater shared under- standing and growth” and comfort as “I feel that, in this space, my reality will be agreed with, validated, and unchal- lenged. I don’t have to explain myself to be understood, and I don’t have to jus- tify my perspective, as everyone shares it.” Students should never feel unsafe in school, whereas discomfort can be a sign of growth. ” We reminded staff of the facilitation skills they already practice that could be used as they worked to create safe spaces. Those tips included: Because we were talking to staff mem- bers working with preschoolers through 12th graders, we had a Lower School teacher talk about how the principles of Responsive Classroom can be helpful with navigating difference, particularly in younger classes. We discussed how all students need to feel a sense of belong- ing and significance and will mimic the behaviors modeled by their teachers. • • • • • • • We reviewed “accountable talk” and of- fered sentence starters that teachers could share with students, such as • “I agree with because • “I disagree with cause ,” • “I am not sure I understand what you are saying, could you try to explain it a different way?” and • “I’d like to add on to what because .” Students should never feel unsafe in school, whereas discomfort can be a sign of growth. • • ,” Be prepared Be flexible and ready to adapt Know who’s in the room Create trust and an inclusive envi- ronment early Set clear guidelines Provide clear instructions Be an active listener and model active listening (mirror, paraphrase, track) Manage time wisely Remain as neutral as possible We told them that when challenging topics emerge, they should take a deep breath, assume positive intent, and lean into discomfort. be- With the staff supported in creating space for difficult conversations across differences, we knew we would have to give students those skills as well. That same year we had newly formed Young Republicans and Young Democrats clubs, said Continues on page 8 CSEE Connections Summer 2020 Page 7