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Does Planned Sex Help or Hinder a Relationship?
by paige diamond
Planned sex is pretty controversial when it comes down to whether it adds or takes away from great sex. Trust me, I get it.
Planned sex is the answer to a lot of sexual dry spots you could find yourself facing in the course of your sexual exploration and relationships. It may not sound like the ideal strategy you’d want to use that can heighten your satisfaction, connection and sexual power but trust me it does.
I remember the first time I even heard of planned sex. My initial concern was that it would take away the spontaneity and passion in the bedroom. The last thing I wanted was for sex to become a chore. I couldn’t see myself with my planner with sex dates planned all over it. Like who does that?
Sex for many people is supposed to be fun, flexible and totally on the spot when the urge hits you. The thing that we don’t take into account is life happens.
You have children. change careers, move to different areas, challenges with family and friends which are totally outside of the scope of your relationship BUT can have a huge impact on your sex life and sex drive. Trying to juggle all of these life situations can and will limit the time you have to have sex, not to mention stifle your creativity and totally wreck your desire.