Doing better is a conscious choice. After you have forgiven yourself, the conscious choice is easier to make. What I mean by conscious, you have to be present in the moment when making the choice. Not only do you have to be present, but so does your newly discovered logic and strength. You have to choose to not sleep with this guy on the first date like you have done in the past. You have to tell yourself to pay attention to the signs and then act on what is seen. Act on what is seen based on what has happened before. You have to have the willpower if you want to lose the excess weight of a bad relationship, of making bad choices. You have to be able to resist the temptation of doing what feels good or what causes the least conflict and do what is right for the relationship – the relationship you have with yourself.
Believe it will all work out. Believe that you are the only person who knows you the best, so of course this is the best decision to be made and you are the best person to make it. Believe that you have processed your mistakes and extracted what you need to build your relationship toolkit. Believe that by not being afraid to make better choices you will live a happier life. Believe that you have done the work to make good decisions for yourself. Believe that you are in a good place to make this decision. Believe that this decision will maintain self- respect. Believe that God will send you the man you are preparing for. Believe that you are work in proper progress and are worthy of being loved and treated well. Believe that there is no compromise in how you are made to feel when in a relationship. Believe most accomplishments are achieved by putting mind over matter. Your heart and mind should work together. Just know the Mind is the boss.
"Doing better is a conscious choice."
In any relationship, the power of positive thinking, of removing the negative energy, of simply forgiving yourself can recharge your entire outlook on love and relationships. When anyone, man or woman, is confident that they are prepared, the task ahead means nothing. We have got to transcend know better do better to our love relationships. Just think if everyone applied this knowledge how much easier relationships could be?
So the CSA says all of that to say this, a romantic relationship requires the same dedication, attention, and care as any other relationship. Making better decisions about love. Being in a better mind state about love. Feeling better about your preparedness can only lead to positive outcomes. Finding real, genuine love is absolutely a positive outcome. When you know better, do better. Simple.
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