Psychosexual Problems: Don’ t Hide What Can Be Cured
When couples fi ght about trivial things, it is possible that sometimes there are far worse and bigger issues which are buried deep at the subconscious level. We often hear people say that now we live in a‘ liberated society’, where most forms of sexual practices and relationships are seen as acceptable. And yet, any psychosexual diffi culty might still easily get brushed away under the carpet. In a country such as ours, a problem related to any sexual disorder becomes cause for ample mismanagement of the issue. Needless to say that the reasons are many, ranging from both men and women not wanting to let anyone know that they are suffering from an issue, trying to put veils on it, to sheer embarrassment of taking up an issue that has no grounds in a physical problem to seek medical help. Men folk of course, have ego issues and feel that their manhood might be in question. As these people lead unsatisfactory sex lives, this creates its stress, not only for the individual but for their relationship as well, which in turn leads to a million other problems. And while women and men both hide away in secrecy, they live lives devoid of normal sex- they live, often in fear and pain, losing self worth when they can very easily put themselves out of their misery as well as enjoy a healthy happy sexual life. It is pertinent for any man or woman going through a diffi cult time to know that they are not alone- not in their psychosexual issue nor in the fact that so many others are also uncomfortable in seeking help. Even when people contact their doctor if they think they may have psychosexual dysfunction, it is not always possible for them to get the right kind of help unless they are guided in the correct direction to seek out a therapist who knows about these disorders. Psychosexual dysfunction is not life threatening, but the damage it causes on your relationship and self-esteem, requires that any such person be treated with utmost respect, gentleness, reassurance and encouragement. One Psychosexual disorder that a woman shared with us for this column is called Vaginismus. Belonging to the lower class, working as a house maid, it was not easy for this woman to be suffering from an ailment which she could not even understand. Even more diffi cult was