We also remind him of the numerous coping techniques
that his counselor has taught him and do you know during
the aftermath he can clearly point out what he could have
done differently.
I have to do a lot of positive talk in the morning from
the time he wakes up to the time he exits the car for school.
“Make good decisions!” “Use kind words.” “Keep your hands,
feet, whole body and objects to yourself.”
Second to dreading the start of the school year, is pick-
ing my son up in the afternoons because I worry about the
answer to my regular questions, “how was he today?” Of
course I ask my son about his school day in various forms of
questioning, but very rarely does he bring up any negatives
about his day for fear of consequences.
Unfortunately this fear that I have of my son’s behav-
iors results in his father and I being reluctant in allowing
him to attend activities such as birthday parties, without our
attendance and camps during school breaks. I suspect that
he is often not invited to birthday parties due to parents’
concerns about his behavior. I prefer that he plays in our yard
and home with his neighborhood friends, however I have to
come to realize that we cannot shelter him and the friends’
homes where I do allow him to play, I have faith that the
parents will advise me of any concerning behavior.
As the 2018-2019 school year gets underway, I pray that
this one is even better than last school year (there was great
improvement during 2017-2018) and I wanted to provide
tips to parents who may be in the same boat as me or on the
other side:
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Be open-minded!
Do not assume that parents/caregivers are not address-
ing the concerning behavior. I cringe every time I read
or hear phrases like, “Parents are not disciplining the
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