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her I can’t do anything. They got me into the hospital and I passed out again. I think the doctor instantly knew what was wrong the minute I said we were pregnant. The hospital was amazing. I had a cat scan, an ultrasound and an x-ray within 45 minutes.” It turned out that she’d had an ectopic preg- nancy. The foetus was growing in her fallopian tube, and at 7 weeks the tube ruptured. By the time she got to the hospital, Z’d lost almost 3 litres of blood which was sitting in her abdomen. “I was rushed into surgery. I met Doctors Robinson and Woods and knew it would be okay, I was in good hands. I lost my left fallopian tube and my left ovary because they were so damaged. I’d been bleeding out for about 3-4 hours. By the grace of God, I survived.” Z says she had to take 6 weeks off from work to recover. After this third miscarriage, she spoke with her doctor to find out what might be going wrong. Tests concluded there was no physical reason why Z couldn’t carry a baby to full term. “I said to my doctor I have no left ovary or fallopian tube and she said the other side will kick in. We decided to give my body a break, however I got pregnant unexpectedly in March of 2018. Because of the previous ectopic pregnancy I was told if I miss a period, get checked immediately. The chances of another ectopic pregnancy are greater once you’ve had a previous one. As you can imagine we were again really nervous. I remember my partner saying statistically speaking, this time has to be okay!” At 8 weeks Z went for an ultrasound. “There was no heartbeat. They said maybe it was too early, but I knew better. I thought ‘no, if there’s no heartbeat now I know there isn’t going to be one next week.’ I went in the next week and there still was no heartbeat. I said to my doctor I’ve had too many surgeries so I opted for medication instead of a D&C. I had some minor cramping and tissue passed. I went in for an ultrasound and remnants were left so I took more medication. After that –well I’ve never seen so much blood and tissue. I bled for 2 months. I ended up having a D&C because I had what’s called ‘remnants of pregnancy’ and my body did not get rid of all of it Though emotional, I’m not one to burst into tears randomly, but this was particularly hard as it dragged out so long. After the procedure I ended up being anaemic.” After 4 miscarriages Z says she started feeling that some- thing was wrong with her. At the same time she was encour- aged because she was still able to get pregnant with one ovary and one fallopian tube. She decided to take time off and her doctor recommended some more detailed tests. “My body needed time. I spoke with my doctor. She told me, the only area of concern was that I have a low antimüllerian hormone – this is an indicator of the amount and quality of eggs you have left. She said there’s no reason why it can’t happen naturally, but at 41 with my hormone rates at the lowest rate for my age, I was doubtful. There wasn’t a problem getting pregnant, or me carrying a child, but it seemed that it was a problem conceiving a healthy blastocyst.” Z and her partner began researching IVF. Just as they were planning to go to Canada for treatment, they got Every woman experi- ences the grieving process in her own way and at her own pace. pregnant. Due in July, Z is now 24 weeks pregnant (at the time of writing this article). “So far, there are no issues. I’m still weary but in terms of genetics and anatomy, all is well. We’ve had a strong heart- beat since 5 weeks. Mentally, I’m worried. But I feel blessed and fortunate to have my first daughter and to be pregnant now. We are encouraged but need to get to the finish line!” She shares her story so that other women will understand they aren’t alone in this experience. “So many women go through this and don’t realize how common it is. It’s your body’s way of protecting you, of saying something isn’t right but it doesn’t make it any easier to go through. From the genetic testing we found out that our first pregnancy ended in miscarriage due to chromosomal issues. We don’t know why the other ones happened, and like most people will never know.” The emotional effects of miscarriage vary among women. It’s common to experience sadness, anger, guilt and anxiety. There’s no “typical” timeframe for recovery. Every woman experiences the grieving pro- cess in her own way and at her own pace. Fathers are also affected by the loss. 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