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Come With Me –

From this we want our horse to follow us where we venture. Whether it be inside and arena or an open field or trail,
we want him to come with us on our journey. So again we must make being with us something positive to him and
something enjoyable enough for him to want to willingly seek out. This is not hard to achieve if we are patient and
take the time to do the right things by our horses to achieve the ultimate results in the long run.
If our horse feels content and safe in our presence then he should seek us out and respond willingly to our asks and
suggestions as we should also do in return to his. Again it’s about allowing him the choice to come with you, once we
understand him and his ideas, wants, concerns etc finding things to do together becomes easy to a natural state of
being and doing in unity. So asking him on a journey or adventure with you will become an activity you both enjoy.
But how do we get to this stage in our relationship with our horses? Time, patience, authenticity and dedication are all
needed to do so. But we may start somewhere small, in an arena or paddock, or we may be ambitious and do so in a
wide open space if that is all that is available to us. We must take into consideration where we are in our ability to
communicate, but it’s often safer to start in an enclosed area if possible.
So we can ask our horse to join us with our intention, stay with us because he enjoys our company, so now why would
he not want to follow us? He will if we have done everything with his feelings in mind, but the first steps are small.
Maybe just a couple, then a few to the left and right. This is all we start with. We use the same intention and energy as
we did to invite him to us, but now our intention is all three, be with me, stay with me and come with me. As all are
required in order for him to accompany you.
We may start of facing him to create a clearer draw of energy in the beginning. Using the same feel as asking him to
join you, you now take a few steps back or to the side and ask he join you again. We start like this in little stages, then
as he starts to come to join us we continue our ask and step backwards some more then stop and give him all the
enjoyment of having come to us. We may continue like this, taking a few more steps each time until he can understand
us and our intention more clearly for him to follow.
Once you have come to a new understanding with your horse on the new activity of coming with you, you can now ask
him as you walk normally. When we prepare to leave from being with him but want him to accompany us, we must
also make this a clear intention before we leave. We must make a slight change in our energy, bring up a little draw
our energy and make our intention readable. We can’t just walk away and expect him to come, we must give him
notice of our idea, so he may make the decision to follow our idea or not.
If he does not follow, again we must not feel upset by this, but rethink and reask what we intended and try to
understand why he did not respond how we would have liked. Eventually you will both come to such a deeper level of
understanding, your intentions will become clear in his mind and his in yours, it will be as a second nature to you, to
him this is normal communication. We will learn how he responds to the way we apply our asks and intentions and
learn to shape ourselves from the way he responds to them.
When we feel that connection, these things will
flow easily. In order for him to come with us, he
must want to stay with us, and in order for him
to stay he must want to be with us. We can only
achieve these three most important aspects of
our relationship with our horses if we base our
relationship on his understandings. If we take
the time to do this, everything we achieve with
our horses will be achieved on the bases of
freedom, choice, allowance and will power.
First meeting with Arthur, We found a connection
almost instantaneously. Here I go for a journey and
he willingly follows me on our small adventure.
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