BANZA February 2016 Issue | Page 94

Hunting and Gathering Missions The reckless go-getter Most women also admitted to borrowing men from other women solely for material comfort and satisfaction. They put less emphasis on marriage as it is nothing but a means to ground and control women. They stick to being ‘Plan B' rather than having their choices and lifestyles managed. An assurance that they would have personal freedom and quench their self-gratifications for a less demanding role is satisfactory. Making men feel like kings while their wives do their laundry is intimidating. “I get expensive shoes and designer bags from my loaned lover and we have quite a good time together. I know it won’t last a lifetime but who cares? Why not enjoy myself while it prevails,” middle-aged woman remarks. For most independent women, getting to the top is a must! They would kill to be on top and so, for such women who have the achievement-fever and are more-than-prepared to go the extra mile for the title, using someone at the top to give them a lift could be more than just a strategy, especially if the boss is married. When 30-year old Dynar found promotions slagging on her side, she figured out that the easy way round to climb the career ladder was to acquaint herself intimately with her boss. “I knew very well that he was married. But I needed that job post. So I thought to myself, why not scratch his back when it’s itchy? After all, I’m not pleading him to walk me to the altar.”