BANZA December 2015 Issue | Page 24

Do you find it hard It’s a Good Sign to fall in love? When we are young, we never listen to anyone and fall in love with the wrong people time and again – people who don’t treat us well. But we often don’t care as long as we get the one we want. By Joseph Rutakangwa As we mature, we slowly learn that to be treated well, not only should we demand respect but I also have to become 1. You Love more selective in finding partners – and that’s how it gets tricky. Yourself Here’s why the struggle to fall in love is a good sign. As we mature, many of us learn that to move on in a positive way we must learn to love ourselves. When it comes to love, many people shy away from a partner who is only attentive to themselves – and these are the kind of partners you want to avoid. You want to attract a partner who appreciates your worth and admires your ability to put yourself first. 2. You Have a Full Life If you have been single for a while you have probably filled your life with very interesting things. Fun activities, family visits, holidays and work all take up your time. You can re-prioritize if that is your wish. You can juggle some things around to fit in a prospective partner and see how it goes. It is entirely up to you how much time you wish to devote to a significant other. Make it work for you. 3. You’re Self Protective Some of us have been seriously hurt by someone we held dear and these wounds take a long time to heal. We can become weary of meeting someone new and put up our guard. Being selfprotective is not innately a bad thing. If anything, this is the intelligent thing to do. Why would anyone rush back into another relationship for the same thing to happen again? The more careful we are the less likely we are to fall in love with a loser or a user.