BAJAN SUN
Bajan Sun Magazine
AUG 2014
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2. Communicate clearly but sensitively: Acknowledging our own needs can embolden us to share
what is necessary with our partner. Communication in this area should not be designed to humiliate, thereby fostering a sense of inadequacy. We
want our guy to know that satisfying us is within
his reach and that together, we can learn to enrich
our sexual experience for the benefit of us both. If
for example, the male partner is plagued with
premature ejaculation, working together to overcome this challenge can enhance the quality of sex
for both individuals. Communication should also
seek to affirm the positive aspects of the relationship first, before zeroing in on the inadequacies.
We should never seek to convey a sense of hopelessness.
3. Release Inhibitions: Sometimes our sex is bad
because we're too uptight; we haven't learnt the
fine art of surrendering to the moment. Our inhibitions and skewed expectations can keep us locked
into a zone of performance-anxiety which makes
our intimate time with our partner both stilted and
burdensome. Understanding that our sexual success is not one-sided but demands our own participation and cooperation can be a significant step in
the right direction. This can release the burden of
responsibility we as women can sometimes place
on our spouse to "give" us an orgasm and encourages us to “own” our sexual pleasure. A more participatory approach can add some much needed
zest to our love life, opening it up to exciting experimentation, which in turn has the potential to
improve its overall quality.
Denise J Charles is the author of How To Have
Mind Blowing Sex Without Losing Your Brain and
serves as Director & Counsellor/Coach at Better
Blends Relationship Institute. Follow her relationship blog Red Red Apples, here or email her: [email protected]
Mondays:
Club Marina - Cavans Lane, Bridgetown,
St. Michael
Wednesdays:
Juice Spot - Ruby Main Road, St Philip
Coconut Island - Villages of Coverly,
Christ Church
Thursdays:
Jamba’s Bar - Banks Hall, St. Michael
Waves Bar - Spring Garden Highway, St
Michael.
South Coast Daiquiri & Grill - St. Lawrence Gap, Christ Church.
Fridays:
Sonita’s Crib - Birds Hill Haggatt Hall,
St. Michael
Moore & Chef Tull Bar- - Buckingham
Road, Bank Hall, St. Michael
Saturdays:
Thirsty or Not bar - Maxwell Main Road,
Christ Church
Codgie’s Bar - Queen Mary Road, Bank
Hall, St Michael. Package.
Juice Spot - Ruby Main Road, St Philip
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