JAN 2015
By Denise J Charles
W
hen a guy that I know
posed this idea some
time back to a group of us (woman
in head differing from woman in
bed) , I thought it particularly
uncanny. As a man and a husband,
he actually admitted that this was a
specific problem for several men. It
broached a little discussion about
one
of
the
relationships.
anomalies
Very
often
of
we
develop an ideal about the person
we want to spend the rest of our
lives with and very often our reallife partner never even begins to
make the grade. We girls often
have this fairy-tale expectation of
the tall, dashing Prince who will
sweep us off our feet, support our
independence, hand over the money (never mind we earn our
We often have an idealistic expectation of our future partner
own) be a tiger in the bedroom, meet all of our emotional
which may have its genesis somewhere in our childhood.
needs, be a great kisser, listener, gourmet Chef and several
Maybe if we had a good relationship with our Mom or Dad,
other things all rolled into one.
we expect our partner to be just like them. The opposite is
also true; a horrible Father will make many a girl long for a
By the same token, a guy wants the girl who is low
guy who is the exact opposite. It could very well also be
maintenance but sexy to the nines, educated, confident,
linked to “first-love-syndrome”: a condition where we
nurturing (as in great Mother material) , uninhibited in bed
compare every relationship to our first. But this article will
but wholesome enough to meet his Mother, not needy or
not focus on us girls this time around. What happens when
clingy or a nag and don’t forget with loads of fragrant hair
our guy has a woman fixed in his head who bears little
( many of the females I know actually will not significantly
resemblance to who we really are? Can a guy be cured of this
shorten their hair because of this perception that guys love
problem and can a relationship survive? More importantly
long hair). That being said, the truth is that this conflict
what happens when the woman in head versus woman in bed
between reality and the ideal, is a problem for both sexes.
problem hits home in the bedroom?
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