A favorite trick of mine is to create one or two strongly and simply worded statements that direct me toward that first sub-goal and write them in the bathroom mirror with a brightly colored dry-erase marker. Every morning while brushing my hair, washing my face, brushing my teeth, I read this out loud to myself 22 times, while I look myself in the eye. I say these things out loud, because even as I see the words, I hear my voice repeating them, and it reinforces the programming with both visual and auditory modalities. I do what I can to work up a certain amount of excitement as I do so- some mornings this is easier than others, but practice makes it flow more freely as you persist. Keep it simple, and limit yourself to one step, one sub-goal, one goal at a time.
The optimal amount of time varies for each person, but a minimum of 21 days seems to be the consensus of the experts. I personally think that 2-3 months is more likely to stick with you- but do try to stick with it at least 21 days. You will notice changes in your thinking, and as your thinking changes, your actions and behavior will also change.
and as your thinking changes, your actions and behavior will also change. When your behavior changes, other changes will begin to manifest from other people and from your environment. There may be a delay in this, but it will eventually happen. Again, be persistent.
Second- I use a blended method that I've hybridized from four sources:
“Wishcraft: How to Get What You Really Want”
by Barbara Sher and Annie Gottlieb