Aptavani-9
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Dadashri: Then how else? Does he not prod you ever?
Otherwise, there is nothing but baggage of obstinacy everywhere.
A person without obstinacy is considered straight (sarad) and
flexible; he can be molded in any shape or form.
Questioner: Do men ever admit to their obstinacy
(aadayee)? He will only know his obstinacy when his wife says
something to him.
Dadashri: Women too are very obstinate. ‘We’ are not
talking about just men. It is only when both parents are so, that
children turn out the way they do. And it is men who make the
women obstinate. Women are not obstinate by nature; they are
not born obstinate. Men are obstinate from their very birth. Even
in the womb, they jab their mothers with their elbows. If the
mother happens to eat something spicy, he jabs his mother from
the inside with his arms and legs. Women are not born obstinate
like men.
You have to see your own obstinacy
People talk about obstinacy (aadayee) in others as if they
have got rid of their own obstinacy. One should not make
statements such as, ‘He is obstinate’.
Questioner: Dada, is it my obstinacy if I say, ‘he is very
obstinate’?
Dadashri: That is the greatest obstinacy.
Questioner: So we have to see our own obstinacy?
Dadashri: Then whose? If you point out obstinacy
(aadayee) in someone else, he will immediately become an
adversary.
Questioner: Many times, we do not even recognize our
obstinacy, in fact, many times our obstinacy appears as straight
forwardness to us.
Dadashri: You would not recognize it. You have to enter