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If he answers, ‘I am Lallubhai, the lawyer, did you not
recognize me?’ you can say he also has abhimaan (pride with
‘my-ness’).
So these are all its traits.
Abhimaan arises when ahamkar associates with mamata,
i.e. when the ego associates with ‘my-ness’. This ‘my-ness’ can
be of any kind. When the ego is by itself, without ‘my-ness’
(mamata), it is called simply ego (ahamkar).
Questioner: Then there is the word tundmijaji? What is
the definition of that?
Dadashri: Tundmijaji! This is a person who does not
have any understanding or money and yet he has endless
arrogance (mijaj). He cannot even get married (no body will
have him!) ‘Why are you being so arrogant when you can’t even
get married?’ That is called tundmijaji.
Then we have a tumakhi. Some seventy-five years ago
the collectors, police, D.S.P. (District Superintendent of Police)
all had tumakhi - as if they were God. They used to beat up
prominent businessmen. What tumakhi! I witnessed that not too
long ago. Because of my business as a contractor, I had to meet
with these officers and so I have seen these traits in them. In a
train, a person could not sit in front of a collector in the first
class. They were honest and disciplined but they had infinite
tumakhi. What tumakhi! They petrified people. An executive
engineer, who used to come to our business, would create a
very intense situation. He would do as he pleased because he
had authority.
I have seen such tumakhi, but now it makes me laugh
when I look at these collectors. In the past they displayed such
authority with arrogance, as if they were God visiting offices. But
today these very people walk around with slippers and if you
accidentally step on their toes, they say ‘please! please!’