290 Aptavani-9
what is abhimaan, what is maan( pride), what is garva and what is tumakhi?
Questioner: What is the meaning of khumari?
Dadashri: Khumari is a kind of abhimaan – excessive pride. These are different types of abhimaan. Then there is the word ghamandi! A ghamandi is someone who has no substance but will make claims such as‘ I can defeat even the lawyer’ s father!’ You should realize that he is a ghamandi – a fake show-off. There are all kinds of people with all kinds of baggage. Then a machharayelo is someone whose bite stings like a mosquito. Then people also say,‘ that man has a lot of ghemraji.’ These are all different phases of pride and that is why they have been given different names.
Questioner: But all these different phases of pride such as abhimaan, ghamand etc., do they not manifest after a certain age? A young child does not have any of these kashayas.
Dadashri: A child does not have them at all. But as the intellect increases, so do the kashayas and their consequences.
So the phases of these words are very immense. It is very difficult to understand these phases. You can only know them from a Gnani Purush.
Questioner: Please explain them individually.
Dadashri: If you call out to a laborer passing by,‘ Hey you! What is your name?’ he will reply,‘ Lalvo’. Now he did not call himself,‘ Lallubhai’, so you should realize that he has only the ego( ahamkar).(‘ Lalvo’ is a nickname for Lallu and‘-bhai’ is a formality like‘ Mr.’)
If we ask another person his name and he says‘ Lallubhai’, you should realize that, he is also a maani( he has an ego as well as pride. He called himself Lallu with‘ bhai’ attached at the end).