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get hurt and feel let down. One should be thankful to the person
insulting him but instead he feels hurt and let down. He should
not feel hurt and let down after an insult, but should feel obliged
to the person hurling the insult. If someone truly insults you,
consider him your upkari i.e. someone who does you a great
favor. You should think, ‘it would be great if he is around me all
the time.’
Love for insults
When a person insults you, he is simply a nimit
(instrumental in the process of your unfolding karmas; an
apparent doer) in the fruition of your past karma. How can that
poor man be the guilty one when you have to endure the fruits
of your own karma? So try looking at it this way. Understand
that it is a fruition of your own karma when someone insults you.
What would you do if a piece of rock were to fall from a hill
and hit you on the head?
Questioner: I would get hurt if it were in my fate.
Dadashri: No, not so. When the rock comes tumbling
down and hits you, you look up to see who threw it and when
you find no one up there, you do not get upset; you do not do
kashaya with anyone. But if someone throws a stone at you,
you will do kashaya, you get angry with him. What is the reason
behind this? It is because there is a difference in your
understanding. In the former case, the hill threw the stone at you
and in the latter, it also a ‘hill’ that throws the stone. There is no
pure consciousness (shuddha chetan) in a person; it is
mishrachetan (a mixture of the non-Self and the Self; the
worldly being). He too is a ‘rock’; he is a ‘hill’, the poor
fellow! If you ‘see’ and ‘understand’ it this way, then it is more
than enough.
You cannot love insults, can you? You cannot love insults
as much as respect, can you? Can a person like losses as much
as he likes profits?