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leisure, but do not become intoxicated (keyf) with it. The
intoxication of pride will make it ugly. One appears ugly and
unattractive when there is such an intoxicated ego for pride.
Even a handsome face will appear ugly.
Why does pride or the need for importance exist? It exists
because one sees others as inferior. Therefore do not see others
as inferior and tell yourself that they are superior to you. Then
that pride will disappear.
You should be indebted to the one insulting
you
Questioner: Respects-insults are very bothersome, how
can I be free from them?
Dadashri: What bothers you, is it the insult (upmaan) or
the respect (maan)?
Questioner: Actually, it is the insult.
Dadashri: Even respect can be very bothersome! A man
will get up immediately if someone gives him too much respect.
If a man gets too much respect, he will run away from there. If
everyday people keep giving him a lot of respect, he will get
tired and run away from there, whereas he would not be able
to tolerate insults even for a short time. He will like respect even
for a short time. Nevertheless man can tolerate insult but he will
not be able to tolerate respect (excessive). Yes, to tolerate
respect is like swallowing lead. When a newly married man
bows at his father’s feet for blessings, the father immediately
gets up from his seat. If you ask him, ‘Why did you get up?’ He
will tell you he cannot handle it.
Questioner: And yet he does not like insult, what is that?
Dadashri: It is very wrong not to like insults. No body
likes insults. The shakti (the energy or the ability) to like insult
has not arisen in anyone. People should hire someone to insult
them, but no o