My-ness should be there with a boundary. The boundary
of my-ness means, it will exist as long as one is alive, for
example the ‘my-ness’ with the body. Any further extension of
my-ness should not be there, including the ‘my-ness’ for an
only son. Otherwise, that extended my-ness will only be
painful.
If an insured ship sinks, how much worrying does the
insurance agent have? If one’s my-ness is of this kind, it will not
cause any pain.
If a bungalow burns down after it is sold and all the
documents are signed, would one feel anything? No; if ‘my-
ness’ can vanish simply by signing papers of agreement, can it
not go away by correct understanding? Otherwise, the bungalow
will say, ‘Boss, either I will go or you will go.’
What are the rules in a museum? You are allowed to see
everything and tour around but you can’t take anything with you.
In the same token, people have to leave everything behind and
go with respect, lying down in a funeral bier! In such a world,
why have all these headaches?
What is indicated by the ‘my-ness’ that causes clashes?
Why is there pain when the wife who is really not your own,
dies? At the time of the marriage ceremony this my-ness
becomes completely binding as the husband begins to think ‘this
is my wife…my wife…my wife...’ Because of this, there is a
psychological effect and the ‘my-ness’ about the wife enters
within. This is what causes pain and freedom from this pain
occurs when the complex knots of ‘my-ness’ are untangled by
saying, ‘not mine…not mine...etc.’
Worldly things are not the impediments to liberation but
my-ness is. The object for which there is my-ness will be the
binding object. In fact, wh at object belongs to us when in the
end, even the body does not accompany us!
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