206 Aptavani-9
Questioner: The inner intent is to weld but we are not able to do so. At first we feel good and then we let go because we cannot deal with it anymore.
Dadashri: You should continue to maintain your intent. Then if the welding is successful, it is good. Have the understanding that everything that happens, welding or separation,‘ it was their lot and that is why it happened to them.’ This is what You have to maintain.
Happiness everywhere with welding
The person who knows the answers to,‘ how can these two people get back together; how can their problems be solved?’ etc., is the one qualified to be called a‘ welder’.
Questioner: Dada, your welding takes place at a subtle level whereas welding done by others is at a gross level.
Dadashri: Yes, but there are many at the gross level.
Questioner: I like this quality of yours very much. You do the welding by making people understand and in the end they are very happy.
Dadashri: And when they are happy, I am happy too. If someone is upset and non-communicative( risavu), I will first ask,‘ is something wrong? What is making you so unhappy? We all have to die one day so why not live in happiness? And we will worry about dying when the day comes, but for the time being at least live happily!’
They will be happy for a year or two but then they will be back to being unhappy. This body is such that it will bring unhappiness. Does the body not bring suffering when you get a headache? So if you experience unhappiness from your own body, can your husband not bring unhappiness too? Still there is great fun when husband and wife are united after their‘ welding’.