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anyone. As long as there is weakness in me, the other person
can never benefit. It is a different matter if someone breaks it
and makes it strong, however I will not break it. If I do not
smoke myself and tell the other person to stop smoking, he may
accept my advice. Surely, one should have this energy to begin
with. If your own friendship with someone is broken and you try
to weld other people’s friendship, the energy within will not
work.
Questioner: What should we do when we are not able
to weld successfully?
Dadashri: If you are not qualified to weld, then what is
the use of trying? Try and do as much as you can and then leave
the rest alone. Your inner intent should be that it would be nice
if they make up. If the welding does not take place methodically
and systematically, then at least keep this your inner intent. You
should not let it destroy your inner intent. You should never
think, ‘It will be good if they separate.’ As it is, there is misery
even in being together! They too are thinking to themselves,
‘Why did I get into this mess?’ but even so it is wrong to
separate them.
Questioner: But Dada, we cannot maintain equanimity at
that moment. At that moment we feel, ‘Why is he doing this?’
Dadashri: There is so much weakness. Is that not a
weakness? That is exactly what will happen when the time
comes. You nourish and nurture a snake and then one day hit
that snake and see what happens? Just test it out, ‘I have fed it
milk for so many days. Now I will hit it’. What will the snake do?
Questioner: Now if the person we are ‘welding’ turns
against us and we feel ‘Why is he doing this?’ is it because we
had set out to do so through the ego?
Dadashri: Yes it was done through the ego. It was done
to taste the sweetness in it.