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Aptavani-9
Dadashri: It happens because there is a presence of
contempt. So if you get rid of contempt and live in harmony with
others then your commonsense will increase. When one cannot
have contempt even towards animals, how can one have it
towards human beings? One would understand if you showed
contempt if you had a certain social status, but that is not so.
You cannot be contemptuous.
What do we mean by sense? It is when one gets married
but has only a few conflicts with his wife throughout his life, they
do not have conflicts everyday; that is sensible living. But if a
man is without this sensibility, he brings home a wife, she sulks,
she becomes upset and non-communicative with him and he
does not know how to deal with her; he does not know how
to open the ‘lock’ (solve problems). So what is to become of
the wife?
‘Singing’ in harmony is the key
A husband will not speak with his wife for five days after
they have a row. He does not know what to do there, so how
can he get beyond the stage of being non-communicative? That
relationship will then begin to rust. If this were the case with a
Muslim man, he would immediately know how to appease his
wife and live in harmony with her. Commonsense means to
‘sing’ in harmony with the right ‘note’.
Questioner: What does ‘singing in harmony with the right
note’ mean?
Dadashri: It means that his method is similar to ‘ours’. It
means to handle matters the way I do. What would a Muslim
gentleman say? ‘I will never fight with my wife. She will fight
with me but I will not fight with her.’
A man with commonsense will not say, ‘such is my
predicament, what should I do?’ If it is not applicable, then it is
not commonsense.